Parenting:
The teen agers
Teenagers,
dealing with hormone changes and issues of identity, fornication, and alcohol,
may feel that no one can understand their passions, especially parents.
The youngster times pose some of
the most delicate challenges for families. Teenagers, dealing with hormone
changes and an ever-complex world, may feel that no one can understand their
passions, especially parents. As a result, the teen may feel angry, alone and
confused while facing complicated issues about identity, peers, sexual behaviours,
drinking and medicines.
Parents may be
frustrated and angry that the teen seems to no longer respond to maternal
authority. Styles of discipline that worked well in earlier times may no longer
have an effect. And, parents may feel alarmed and helpless about the choices
their teen is making.
As a result, the teen
times are ripe for producing conflict in the family.
Typical
areas of parent-teen conflict
Controversies over the teen’s curfew,
The teen’s choice of musketeers
Spending time with the family versus
with peers
School and work performance
Buses and driving boons
Dating and fornication
Clothing, hair styles, and make up
Tone destructive behaviour similar as
smoking, drinking, and using medicines
Dealing with the
issues of nonage can be trying for all concerned. But families are generally
successful at helping their children negotiate the experimental pretensions of
the teen times — reducing dependence on parents, while getting decreasingly
responsible and independent.
Still, there are a number of advising signs
that effects aren't going well and that the family may want to seek outside
help. These include aggressive behaviour or violence by the teen, medicine or
alcohol abuse, promiscuity, academy truancy, skirmishes with the law, or raw behaviour.
Likewise, if a parent is resorting to hitting or other violent behaviour in an
attempt to maintain discipline, this is a strong peril sign.
